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A quiet, peaceful sanctuary from the chaos of everyday living in a world on the brink of insanity! A place where we prepare for the worst, but hope for the best!

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Wednesday, July 29, 2020

Maybe?

Maybe the pandemic is a way for some of us to be still, be quiet and to reflect...maybe it’s a time of shifting and change...maybe it’s a way to let go of what you were, so that you can become what you’re meant to be! Maybe it’s a time of letting go of the old and embracing the new, finding out what path is meant for you and getting off the path that you were told was for you. Maybe it’s a time for new beginnings, new friendships, a new way of looking at things....maybe...maybe it’s a time refreshment, renewal and revitalization...maybe it’s time for your energy to shift to higher things...Embrace this time as positive to your growing spiritually, emotionally and as a human being. As chaos surrounds us, cling to that which brings you peace and helps center you.

Let’s be better!

I walked through my garden this morning after a nice little rain shower and noticed it’s getting tired...things are winding down and soon this season will be over...it’s work will be done. My squash and zucchini have been over run by squash bugs, but that’s ok we’ve gotten plenty of squash and zucchini for us. Cucumbers have slowed to a crawl...tomatoes and peppers are still going strong admist the heat and lack of rain...they stand strong...with rain and cooler temps moving in I’m sure they will do even better!

As I sat there looking at the garden I was reminded of us, people, society....we are in a storm right now...the heat is turned up and there’s no relief in sight...we are getting tired.....we have the right and left and those in the middle...we have talking heads that say nothing of any usefulness ...As I look at my tomato plants, standing tall, still being productive inspite of the trials, it was a reminder that in the midst of our trials we need to stand tall...we need to be concerned with where we’re going and not where we’ve been...my tomatoes and peppers focus on their job, their place in the garden...they give very little, if any energy to the cucumbers or squash...my tomatoes are focusing all their energy into themselves and what their purpose is, and producing the fruit they are meant to produce...if they focused all their energy on the squash that is dying they would be spending energy that they can’t afford to spend...their fruit would not make and even if it did, it would not be the quality it should be...When we, humans, maintain focus on what’s not right in our life, with the not so kind people in our life, in our society we get sucked in and can’t be productive...I’m not saying bury your head in the sand and pretend everything is ok, I’m saying make sure your energy is directed at staying healthy and focused on your purpose. Quit giving your energy to the negative, nothing good to say, everything is bad kinda stuff...We need to be aware as to what’s going on, but if we constantly dwell on the negative and what’s wrong we lose sight of what’s right....our fruit, our light, our ability to be productive will be diminished and we will begin to wilt, wither and die without ever being all we can be and producing the fruit we are meant to produce! I challenge each of you for one week focus on all that is good, right and positive! At the end of the week you will feel freer and more in control of your life! Soon all this will all pass and hopefully we’re better because of it.

Saturday, May 2, 2020

Times are changing

We’ve been in this pandemic for a few months now and no one knows how much longer it will last. Some believe it will end this summer, some believe we could be in this thing for a long while...I believe the latter. After years on social media and the past few month of seeing non stop chatter and arguing over this pandemic I had to take a break...not sure how long I’ll be gone or if I’ll ever go back. Our county is so divided at point I’m not sure we’ll ever come together again.

This morning I sat outside in the warmth of sun, enjoying my coffee and just thinking...I thought about my dad and how he would handle this pandemic, I thought about my best friend and if she were here what she would say...

In the distant blue sky I saw a bird flying, free from any care of this pandemic just soaring through the beautiful sky with ease! For a moment I wished I could that bird...

I saw a butterfly dancing around and it gracefully landed near me...I took the opportunity to snap a few pictures...it sat quietly and patiently as I took them as if it knew this was somehow healing to me...once I had my pictures it flitted off waving it wings as if saying goodbye...I think it was a sign that my loved ones are still close🙂.

I went back to my coffee and my thoughts...I looked up at the trees and thought how strong they were, they go through so much...changing seasons, wind, rain, hail...pandemics...yet stand strong...I thought about us, the ones very aware of this pandemic and I’ve seen so many differing reactions...fear, anger, denial,strength, weakness, sadness and downright despair..I’ve seen kindness but also hatefulness....I’ve seen helpfulness and hopelessness...I’ve seen hero’s in many areas...I look around and I feel sad, but also hopeful at the same time...sad for what society has lost and some of the
loss came before the pandemic...the loss of compassion and respect for those of a differing opinion...I feel hopeful that somehow moving forward in the next months to years we can unite and find the respect and compassion for each other as human beings and not look at each other political rivals...our world and times are changing...good or bad at this point I’m unsure...but I know for me, I want to take this time and reflect, rejoice, and remain ever mindful of life...my dad always said...prepare for the worst and hope for the best...I think that’s sound advice....in a world where you can be anything...be kind, be mindful, and take care...Times are changing....

Until next time...

Tuesday, December 17, 2019

Lost another friend

When someone dies in the time following is as If time has stopped...it’s like sitting and being frozen...like you can’t move forward and you can’t go backward...you just exist...

Emotions seem to visit in waves...sometimes crashing in like waves of the ocean on the rocks spraying our sadness and despair on everything around it...and at other times, like a soft gentle ripple barely being noticed....

As the seconds turn into minutes, minutes to hours, hours to days we look out at the world and see people busy with life...bustling to and fro, we stand, wondering if we even exist anymore...do they hear my cries? Do they sense my pain? Do they even see me? Or maybe I’ve become invisible....or maybe....they simply don’t care...

Sitting quietly pondering life, lost in my ocean of thoughts staring blankly at the wall in front of me I question the Who, what, when, why, where and hows of life and death...

It seems only minutes that I’ve sat in this place but a glance to the window shows me it’s been hours...dawn is now dusk....have I worked through anything?

Maybe...

I realize the world does go on...rain clouds will give way to the sun....the leaves will fall, ice and snow will melt and soon there will be new foliage..the green of summer will again turn to autumn with the brilliance of colors and the leaves from the trees will fall blanketing the ground...once more snow will fall...the cycle of life and death continues...

I, we, will get through this I whisper to myself...yes, the world goes on...this rock we inhabit will keep spinning...seconds will turn to minutes, minutes to hours, hours to days...so on and so forth...

Birth and death will happen continuously...Our job... I believe ...is to make the most of of our time in between our life’s spring(birth) and winter(death) we need to touch lives in a way that matters...make this earth a better place to be...smile, be kind...leave everyone better than you found them...forgive, love, laugh, be grateful...act silly...cry when you need to, it’s ok to be sad...when it passes....be better!

Make a difference to even just one person. Don’t judge, don’t be mean...no one is above anyone else...we are each on a journey...we will never all agree...and at death none of this stuff will even matter...we all become equals!

I think the message of life is quite simple really....Leave the people you meet better than you found them...regardless of your differences! Embrace, accept, love...

Wednesday, October 23, 2019

Where to begin...

It's been so long so since I've blogged here. So much has changed yet so much has remained the same.Iam hoping to get back to blogging it is so therapeutic for me. I miss it. Being on facebook i've just let this slide.

So, after a long break from "farming" ...last spring we added back in some chickens and some goats...it's been good for me. There are days I still struggle with the death of my best friend and I can find my solace in my critters and my garden. My life has had more "noise" than I like the past few months with being on facebook...all the drama, negativity and censorship has really taken its toll on me. I am contemplating leaving there and focusing more on my blogging. Blogging is a way for me to deal with my feelings. Time will tell....

So this year we had a pretty good garden. I focused a lot on herbs. I am learning a lot about different herbs and their uses for medicine as well as other things. I did pretty good growing a decent herb garden this year and i'm already looking forward to expanding next year. This past season we did container gardening and it worked well for us. Much easier to care for with a decent yield. That too will be expanded next season.

We had goat babies born early spring, 2 does and a buck. We re-homed the buckling and our buck and right now only have 3 does with one expecting. She was bred before we re-homed the boys. I am hoping for doelings from her. Goats bring me a great deal of joy. Their antics are forever making me smile and giggle. It does the soul good.

I've been making candles and a variety of different things of that nature just to give me something constructive to do, i've enjoyed these things for years but have just just recently thought about making a business out of it....seems there's a lot of competition in the market and of course drama as with anything. I prefer to just be inspired and do my own thing, no need to copy cat others but that seems the norm these days. I wonder what happened to creativity and originality in people? Seems it's been lost.

I am still studying different religions and finding my own truth. Spending so many years in a religion that never allowed for different views this has been a hard, but eye opening journey for me. Seems everything I ever thought I knew has been tossed to the wind. All other religions, I was taught were evil and of the "devil" I am finding is not true. Most religions are very peaceful and mindful of other beliefs. I am finding Christianity to be the most troublesome of all religions. I really hate to put that in writing but I am finding the judgment and ignorance in that religion mind blowing. I know many many good Christians but coming from the life I came from I also know many many bad ones. I'm not sure where I will "land" in all of this but I am very drawn to Buddhism. I just love the peace of it all. The focus on being in nature and mindfulness is something I've always been drawn to. I love the focus of working on oneself  and not trying to convert others to a different way of thinking.....I have since a childhood been in love with the outdoors and all things nature. In my "old church" I was likened to a witch because of my love of  nature....Crazy, crazy stuff...I am now free to embrace my love and reverence of nature without feeling like I am sinful or destined to hell. I'm not sure i'll fully be able to get over the hurt I felt over all that....soon I will share that story as I feel ready to shed light on abusive Christianity. 

I'll sign off for now, but promise I'll be back soon...I miss blogging so much....

Be Mindful,
Me💖

Monday, December 10, 2018

Changes & Life

I have never been a person that liked the winter...it's to cold and dreary and it always reminded me of death...everything alive dies in the winter...this year I have adjusted my thinking and I am finding the winter to be a bit refreshing...the cold air is refreshing from the stifling heat here in the south...and life must rest and renew....the fall and winter are a time of rest for much of nature...in the spring new life will begin...I am working on my mindfulness and learning to find the beauty and purpose of each season..it's not as hard as it once was...after all, it's just a season, not a permanent thing...When we spend our time fretting of over things we can't change, like the weather seasons, we waste a lot of time...time we cannot get back...change is part of life...resisting that change is what brings us misery...it's easier to accept that change is inevitable and even if you don't like it, agree with or support it, it's going to happen...you either go with it and the make the best of it...or fight it and be miserable...I choose to just go with it...which brings me to my changes...

In my last post I blogged about our tiny house endeavor...that has been put on hold...we have another opportunity that we are looking into...one that will work better for our situation...While I was excited at the tiny house option, I was also open to the the change this other opportunity brought....In years past I would have been upset and disappointed, but things happen for a reason and forcing an issue that isn't meant to be will only set us up for failure...I guess it called "faith" to many....We just trust that "God" and the universe has our back and will bring us whatever is right for us...our job is to listen and embrace it...I'm excited to see where this journey takes us in the next couple of months....

In homestead news we lost 5 chickens to what we think was a opossum a couple weeks ago...I was able to replace them with hens already laying so it worked out great...We are getting more eggs than hubby and I can eat...we share with neighbors and family...It's awesome to be generous...The goats are doing good...i'm sure we will have "kids" closer to spring...I am very much looking forward to that...But for now most my time is spent indoors staying warm...On warmer days I meander outside and stand at the fence watching my chickens peck and being grateful for the life I have been given...While at times its difficult and brings great sorrow...there is more times that are good and joyful....I am so thankful for all I have and look forward to sharing my journey of life with you all...

Until Next Time