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A quiet, peaceful sanctuary from the chaos of everyday living in a world on the brink of insanity! A place where we prepare for the worst, but hope for the best!

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Monday, January 4, 2021


I typically try to do my end of year reflection post closer to the first, but this year I got busy and didn't find the time. I've taken the time to be quiet and just reflect on this past year. I believe with all trials, no matter how big or small, come lessons. Most of the time we are to wrapped up in the issue to take time to learn the lesson(s) we are meant to learn. I am really no different, I've been rather down as of late, so much going on in the world and in my heart and head its been difficult to sort it all out. I've seen and heard things this year that disturb me deeply. I have had to pull away from people and things that stole my peace and joy, I need to focus on learning what I am here to learn. I look around at the turmoil in our country, and my heart breaks...I ask myself why are people so mean, so hateful...truthfully, I have no answers, other than they are human and humans want to be right at all cost....I sit here on my little slice of earth and feel alone so much of the time...not 'lonely' necessarily but alone in my way of thinking, my values, my beliefs. I see all the hate and the tension and I just can't grasp the mindset of such people...I have come to one conclusion as to why some are the way they are.... that is that fact that they get so caught up in the way things in their mind were suppost to be that they can't accept the reality of the way things are....Change is hard for many, but it is also inevitable...without change we cannot grow as people. Change takes us from our comfort zone and puts us in unfamiliar territory and that is hard....The Buddha once said that it is not change that is difficult but the resistance to it.(paraphrased) I couldn't agree more! I am not one to like change but I know from my own experience the more I fight it the more unhappy and frustrated I become, so it's best to feel the feelings, deal with the emotions and move on....See, change is going to happen regardless if you want it to, so you might as well just accept it and move on with life...learn the lessons to help you grow as a person. 

This year I've learned many things about myself and other people and lessons have been horribly hard at times. 

I've learned no matter who you are or what you do there is always going to be someone not like or agree with you.

I've learned people are not always who they appear to be and if your instincts tell you to beware, then beware!

I've learned that just because I believe something with all my heart doesn't mean others have to. All you can do is educate, what they take from the education is up to them.

I've learned that even in the midst of the most horrific storm there is always good to be found.

I've learned its important to our mental and emotional health to be true to who we are regardless of the back lash...those meant to be in your life will accept you and love you. Let go of those that are not accepting.

I've learned kindness will get you further than hatefulness

I've learned if  your politics and religion define your friendships, you need to find new friends!

I've learned I deserve friends that value me and my time. That love me unconditionally and those that can't really aren't my people.

I've learned it's ok to reinvent who you are how many ever times you wish to do so. You are the only one you have to live with daily, so love yourself, accept yourself(flaws and all), and be kind to yourself.

I've learned it's ok to hurt and cry even after years have passed. Love doesn't die just because the person did or the relationship ended. True love will endure forever.

But mostly I've learned that its ok to distance yourself from those that exude negativity at every turn. Negative energy is very harmful to those exposed. I had to let go of friendships that were negative and toxic, I am off facebook due the toxic nature of so many people. I am a person that absorbs other peoples energy no matter how hard I try not to, I just do...so I had to get away. I have to take time to unwind, relax, meditate and just let go and recharge. I am keenly aware of the situation in our country, but I am also keenly aware I am the only one that can choose my attitude towards the situation. Being

ugly, negative, spewing hate and toxcicity everywhere I go, serves no good purpose other than to make me look ignorant...If I am supportive, positive and encouraging of others my impact is far greater.

Life is a boomerang, what you put out, you get back...you choose....put out negative you will be a miserable human being, with all manner of problems and issues. Put out positivity and you will fare much better in life with positive things happening for you. I am not not saying being positive negates you from experiencing bad or traumatic things, I am just saying day to day living will be much easier to cope with during those stressful time. Positive people attract positive things and negative people attract negative things. I am also not saying to not see a situation for what it is, truth is not always positive, but being truthful will bring about positive change in the long term. Decide this year what you want to do with they rest of you life and then set goals and make it happen! Stay positive even in this time of uncertainty and great things will happen for you. Hang in there, stay safe, stay positive and spread kindness!

Friday, January 1, 2021


New Beginnings

I am so excited for new beginnings this year! So many plans we have made and I’m looking forward to them coming to fruition. It’s been a very hard year for so many, I hope this year is better for us all. Stay safe and stay grateful for all you have!

Monday, December 28, 2020


I'd like to reintroduce myself to those that are new here. I am a 50+ year old woman that lives in the woods, very rural. I love to garden, both herbs and veggies, I love animal husbandry, peace and solitude. I do not subscribe to any one religious belief but believe we should follow the path that calls the loudest to our souls. I did however subscribe to the christian faith for almost 50 years. This blog is nothing more than a collection of my life's journey. I started it when my dad was ill. If you like to catch up and read past post, look to your right there you will see where it says blog archive. Go down to 2016, click/tap that and then scroll all the way to the bottom, there you will find my very first post. If anything from my past offends your sensibilities I am sorry, but it was/is my life from my perspective. From there you can go up and read all the way to today by clicking the dates on the right. So with that said I want to begin by a short reflection on this last year.

What can I say...LOL...been a helluva year for sure. I think we have experienced every emotion a human can have this year. For me its been about learning. Learning more about who I am, what I want out of the rest of my life, learning about other people which has been the hardest. I am moving back to blogging after a long time of thinking and trying to make face book work for me. I finally realized that at this time in my journey I am not face book material. 

See, facebook reminds me of the high school or college parties. Loud, way to loud music, obnoxious drunk people(minus the drunk), lights, everyone talking and no one listening. There are cliques of the cheerleaders, the preps, the jocks, the in betweens and the nerds. I fall into the nerd category...LOL...I am typically in real life quiet & reserved...I tend to take things in. I am the one in the corner with the rbf that everyone thinks is hateful or stuck up when in reality I am very uncomfortable. I am assessing the situation, feeling it out, feeling the vibes. If I am comfortable around you I am very outgoing and talkative. Facebook for me is the same as a loud party only with adults and on a much larger scale than high school or college and you should be dealing with mature adults...LOL...I see the same dynamics though....Everyone posting and commenting but no one is really listening to what anyone is saying, people just want to push an agenda. Everyone wants to be right, but unfortunately most of the time no one is! People will ask a question such as Why is this_____ or how is this________. Being the naive nerd I am, I answer honestly and truthfully only to be attacked and told why I am wrong...It happens all the time to people like me. We are really only trying to have an intelligent and meaningful conversation with the person that posed the question but in reality they just wanted to get likes or attention. Or you post something personal and you get told its not right....feelings are neither right nor wrong, they just are.... I am not like that and things like that steal your peace and make you feel terrible. People like this bait others into answering a question only to tell them they are wrong or make fun of them and have their bully friends join in. Yep! Not for me. So I have decided in order to keep my peace I must exit the party. My peace is far more important to me than facebook especially in these trying days. We have far bigger things to focus on. :0)

Blogging gives me a sense of quiet and joy. I can come over here, away from the noise. I don't have BS clogging up my feed or yet another baited question or seeing the gaslighters do their thing. It's quiet.

I want to be a beacon of light in these dark times. I certainly do not in any way have all the answers, but my hope is that you can glean some tidbit of wisdom from my thoughts and ruminations. My hope that is amongst the chaos in the world you can come here and find peace, solace and hope.

I also will offer no apologies for my typos or grammatical errors....I do not blog professionally. :o) I may post things from all religious affiliations, again I offer no apologies. I am accepting of all beliefs. If they go against my moral and ethical code of life, I move on and let them be. I hope you all can do the same. It tend to lean buddhist but do not subscribe to that philosophy 100%. So just know you may see things like that from time to time if you choose to read here.

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Love and Light!

Sunday, August 9, 2020

A wonderful week

It was a wonderful week here on the homestead. The garden was productive and so were we. As the pandemic ravages the country and political divide infects every aspect of life, we, are untouched in so many ways. I managed to stay positive and focus on all the goodness and blessings in my life. I enjoy sitting outside with my coffee and admiring the trees, the blue sky and the birds....I watch in amazement as I see the hummingbirds stop by for a quick bite...I see the bees and I am grateful for their contribution to our little homestead....life really is good inspite of all that’s going on. While life is somewhat different during these times, I find I enjoy being home more than ever before....I’m blessed to have a home and place that offers respite from the storm....I know with time life will return to somewhat normal, but this is a time we won’t soon forget...I’m hopeful many take this time to reflect on what really important in life...I know we’ve learned many lessons during our time at home...next post I’ll discuss some the greatest lessons.

Stay safe-